Screw Certainty

You know in your gut what you need to do to change your life. Yet chances are good you’re not doing them.

The Road Not Taken Robert Frost

Why?

I’m not trying to be harsh….but who cares why?

Stop asking why. Just start doing.

We can get lost in the mire of psychological reasoning…do I really believe in myself? Is this really my calling? How do I know for sure that this is what I should be doing? Lacking certainty in any one of these questions can stop you from taking action.

So let me challenge you….

SCREW CERTAINTY!!

Seriously…when we did make an idol out of certainty?

Did Abraham have certainty when God told him to leave the land he called home?

Did the disciples have certainty when Jesus told them to quit the family business and follow him?

What’s the opposite of certainty?

Uncertainty.

In other words…Risk.

If something is certain, there’s no risk involved. 

Embrace risk.

Not stupid risk…not risk that’s against the council of your community. Not risk that looks more like striving than trusting God. But the kind of risk that is based on a gut feeling that you know you’re supposed to move in this direction, but you’re just scared and unsure. Embrace that risk.

And most importantly….take action.

Today.

“But I don’t know exactly what to do!”

So what. Take action.

“But I feel like I’m guessing at which action to take!”

So what. Take action.

Just get the car moving….anywhere…even in the wrong direction…just get movement.

Movement brings clarity, and out of that clarity you can adjust the movement as needed. Chances are that you’re waiting for clarity to start moving. It doesn’t work that way. Start moving and you’ll get the clarity you’ve been waiting for.

Don’t believe me?

Psalm 119:105 says “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light for my path.”

You only have light for the second step after taking the first step.

[reminder]What action have you been delaying out of “uncertainty” but know that you need to take today?[/reminder]

My Personal 3 Step Formula For Success

Gods job is to direct your steps

I have a passion for helping people discover God’s best for their lives. It saddens me to see people spend time they’ll never get back pursuing success that doesn’t really matter.

Success that matters is success with the end in mind. It’s living life backwards. Always ask yourself, will achieving this goal matter to me when I’m on my deathbed? It’s pursuing goals that bring you life, not just fill your garage.

This will help you make the hard decisions that many don’t – such as leaving the office to spend time with your kids instead of working a little longer to make a few extra dollars.

The question then is this: “what brings you life?” That’s the starting point.

Most of us live such busy lives we really have no idea what brings us life. Just an hour in front of the TV frankly sounds pretty life-giving most days. You may need to do some soul-searching. Take a weekend retreat. Journal.

Here’s a thought…maybe ask God what makes you come alive. Out of anyone, I think He’d know best what your true desires are since he is the one who put them in you.

Don’t Get Stuck On Purpose

But here’s the key: don’t get stuck on purpose. Nowhere in scripture does God promise to reveal your entire purpose to you. But He leaves clues hidden in your desires, and He does promise to direct your steps. So take this as permission to move forward in faith with what you currently know. The final picture may still be fuzzy but clarity will come as you move forward.

My Personal 3 Step Formula For Success

Right Goals + Daily Action + Time = Success

1. Right Goals:

A journey of a thousand miles may start with a single step, but you better be sure it’s in the right direction. There’s a reason U2’s “Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For” was such a high success – it resonates with so many people. If you’re pursuing success out of a desire for happiness or to prove yourself, you will never find it.

No goal in the world can fill a human heart.

Go to Jesus first, find “what you’re looking for” then start your success journey with his guidance and peace.

Read the stories of Zig Ziglar, Tony Dungy, Dave Ramsey, Michael Hyatt, and Dan Miller. These men are incredibly successful, yet they will tell you that they had happiness (inner success) before they had outward success.

Success without God equals frustration; Success with God equals fulfillment.

2. Daily Action: 

Most people have no problem setting goals. Actually getting up every morning and doing something about them is another story. If you want to reach your goal, you must commit to take daily action towards those goals.

3. Time:

A journey of a thousand miles is a failure if you stop at mile 999. Don’t give up. The only reason to quit is if you realize that what you’re pursuing really isn’t as important as your once believed.

A word of advice….

We forget faster than we realize.  Case in point…what were your News Years Resolutions? Exactly.

My best advice is to buy a cheap laminator, and some 8.5×11 and wallet size sleeves, and laminate your goals. Put them in the shower, on the mirror, in the car, in your pocket. Put motivating quotes all over the place. It may not look the best, but if you want extraordinary success then you have to throw normal out the window.

Right Goals + Daily Action + Time = Success

[reminder]My weakest step is #2 – daily action. Which one is your’s, and what can you do this week to strengthen it?[/reminder]

Top 28 Quotes from Gary Keller’s book “The ONE Thing”

The ONE Thing by Gary Keller

This past weekend my wife and I loaded up the kids and drove 7 hours north from Orlando to Augusta to visit her family. Beth was gracious enough to do most of the driving, which allowed me to consume my latest treat from Amazon…

The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller with Jay Papason

If you want to reach your potential,  you need to read this book. Here are my key take-aways and favorite quotes from the book.

Key Take-Aways:

Success comes from focusing on your most important activity that will bring you the most results. This activity is like the first domino in a chain of dominos…each one building sequentially on the other. Your job is simply to identify the first domino, and work on it until it falls.

Discipline is only needed long enough to create a habit. Successful people aren’t necessarily the most disciplined, but they are the ones that have the best habits. Discipline then is merely a tool to create successful habits.

Keller cites research that shows it takes an average 0f 66 days to create a habit. My first domino is simply getting up at 5 AM daily. This almost guarantees success as it gives me margin to do my most important work before the kids wake up and “daily life” starts. Today marks Day One for me of creating a habit of getting up every day at 5 AM (normally I start the week strong and by Thursday I’m waking up too late and just reacting to the week instead of creating the week).

Favorite Quotes:

  • If you chase two rabbits you will not catch either one. -Russian Proverb
  • Extraordinary results are directly determined by how narrow you can make your focus. -Gary Keller
  • Find the lead domino, and whack away at it until it falls. -Gary Keller
  • Success is built sequentially. It’s one thing at a time. -Gary Keller
  • It is those who concentrate at one thing at a time who advance in this world. -Og Mandino
  • Success demands singleness of purpose. -Vince Lombardi
  • Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least. -Johann Wolfgang van Goethe
  • The things which are most important don’t always scream the loudest. -Bob Hawk
  • Multitasking is merely the opportunity to screw up more than one thing at a time. -Steve Uzzell
  • Success is actually a short race – a sprint fueled by discipline just long enough for habit to kick in and take over. -Gary Keller
  • When we know something that needs to be done but isn’t currently getting done, we often say, “I just need more discipline.” Actually, we need the habit of doing it. And we  need just enough discipline to build the habit. -Gary Keller
  • The trick to success is to choose the right habit and bring just enough discipline to establish it. -Gary Keller
  • It takes an average of 66 days to acquire a new habit. -University College of London Study 2009
  • Your work life is divided into two distinct areas – what matters most and everything else. You will have to take what matters to the extremes and be okay with what happens to the rest. Professional success requires it. -Gary Keller
  • Anyone who dreams of an uncommon life eventually discovers that there is no choice but to seek an uncommon approach to living it. -Gary Keller
  • What is the ONE thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary? -Gary Keller
  • Until my ONE thing is done, everything else is a distraction. -Gary Keller
  • People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures. -F.M. Alexander
  • If everyone has the same amount of time and yet some earn more than others, can we say then say that it’s how we use our time that determines the money we make? -Gary Keller
  • If disproportionate results come from one activity, then you must give that one activity disproportionate time. -Gary Keller
  • There is magic in knocking down your most important domino day after day. All you have to do is avoid breaking the chain, one day at a time, until you generate a powerful new habit in your life. -Gary Keller
  • Taking complete ownership of your outcomes by holding no one but yourself responsible for them is the most powerful thing you can do to drive your success. -Gary Keller
  • You’d be hard pressed to find elite achievers who don’t have coaches helping them in key areas of their life. -Gary Keller
  • In the end, the best way to succeed is to go small. And when you go small, you say no – a lot. A lot more than you might have even considered before. -Gary Keller
  • When you give your ONE Thing your most emphatic “Yes!” and vigorously say “No!” to the rest, extraordinary results become possible. -Gary Keller
  • Only those who risk going to far can possibly find out how far one can go. -T.S. Eliot
  • Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the age harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. -Mark Twain
  • To ignite your life you must focus on ONE Thing long enough for it to catch fire. -Gary Keller

[reminder]I stated above that I’m creating a daily habit of getting up at 5 AM. What is ONE new habit you need to create to propel you towards success?[/reminder]

5 Secret Steps to Reaching Your Goals

Want to know how to increase the odds of reaching your goals by 77%? Watch this short & creative video by Kim Avery. Kim is on staff at Professional Christian Coaching Institute, where I’m currently getting certified as a Life Coach. She’s also a marketing guru and is helping me personally with launching Success That Matters Coaching. I couldn’t be more excited. Enjoy the video!

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[reminder]So what stuck out to you in the video? What step do you get hung up on?[/reminder]

-Wesley

2014 Will Be Exactly As You Expect It To Be

Have you ever heard of the Pygmalion Effect?

Henry Ford Quote Whether you think you can

 

In the late 60s, Robert Rosenthal conducted an experiment where an entire elementary school was given an IQ test. The test scores weren’t given to the teachers, but the teachers were told that 20% of the students scored high and could be expected to “bloom” intellectually over the coming year. Here’s the key part…the teachers were given the names of those students expected to bloom.

The “exceptional” students were chosen at random. Yet because the teachers expected them to perform at a higher level than the other students, they actually did perform exceptionally better!

So How About You?

January 1st is just a memory now. We’re just three weeks into the new year, but by now most of our resolutions have either been broken or completely forgotten.

If you listen to Dan Miller much, sooner or later you’ll hear him recommend the book “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale. I actually listened to the audio version before reading the book, and when I first heard it, one of the statements jumped out and grabbed me. Nightingale said this:

“We are where we are because that is exactly where we really want to be – whether we’ll admit that or not.”

I didn’t like that statement.
I disagreed with it.
I turned off the cd and argued with it.

“How can he say I’m right where I want to be???” No I’m not! I want to be 30 pounds lighter. I want to be more successful! I want to have a better marriage!”

But slowly I began to realize he was right. I AM where I want to be.

I’m not where the idealist in me wants to be, or the dreamer in me wants to be. But the core of who I am, the part of me that runs the ship day to day and makes the vast majority of my decisions…yeah…I’m right where that part of me wants to be.

You see, if I lose weight, it’s going to cost me something. I’m going to have to stop eating pizza, and actually exercise sometime. And if I want to be more successful, I’m going to have to put in the time, pay the price in self-discipline to show up day after day to grow this thing. And if I want a better marriage, guess what? I’m going to have to pursue my wife again like I did when we were dating, which takes energy and time, two commodities in short supply right now.

So in a real sense, I was exactly where I wanted to be. In a risk-free comfortable life that didn’t really require too much of me.

Can you relate? Are you where you want to be (not the dreamer you, the real you)?

Screw Resolutions

Here’s where it gets real. Stats show that 50% of us make resolutions. Within three weeks 70% of us who made them have already broken them.

So what does it take for real change to occur?

I think it goes back to the Pygmalion Effect. Do you really believe you will succeed at your goals? If, deep down, you expect that you’re going to fail, then you’re going to fail. So set goals that are attainable & realistic for you.

I don’t usually say this, but if you keep striking out maybe stop trying to swing for the fence. Just shoot for first base this time and see what happens. Give yourself an easy win. Then another. Then another. Win by win you’re building momentum and success.

Right beliefs + Right Actions = Success.

So here we are. Three weeks into 2014. You will get what you expect this year. Not the dreamer you that shoots for the moon on New Years Eve. But the real you. The one who gets tired, who loses vision for what can be, who gets discouraged at the lack of progress.

To be successful you have to guard your expectations like the apple of your eye. Because you will get what you expect.

Don’t give up. Plan the work and work the plan. Stay the course. You will get there.

-Wesley

[reminder]What is one “small step” that you can take the next 30 days that will start to get momentum back?[/reminder]

We hit 200 Likes! Thank You!!

Today was a milestone for me! We hit 200 “likes” on Facebook. I’m so thankful for everyone who is supporting my work here of helping people live lives that matter!

Facebook Likes

 

Everyone has to start somewhere, and the beginning is such an important time because any little wind can seem to knock you off course. So having a community around you that values you and the work you are doing is so vital.

I’m doing it for you, but at the same time, I couldn’t do it without you!

So to my little community…thank you.

Thank you for all the small things, the likes, the shares, the feedback, the downloads, the comments, and most importantly, the encouragement!

To reciprocate the love, here’s a couple of quotes to encourage YOU on your journey!

Earl Nightingale Quote

Mike Dooley Quote DreamsJohann Wolfgang von Goethe Quote

Take Life By The Horns

14 Things Successful People Do On Weekends

Happy Saturday night everyone! My wife is out doing some “therapy shopping, so I’m taking the opportunity to share an interesting article I found on Forbes.com.

The article is 14 Things Successful People Do On Weekends. Weekends are so wasted by most people. Instead of using their non-work time productively, we slip into veg mode and do the least amount possible on all fronts. But successful people see weekends differently. Not necessarily as a chance to get ahead, but a chance to catch up and recharge.

14 Things Successful People Do On Weekends

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How To Fill Your Tank (MUST WATCH!!)

I watched this video at a business breakfast last year & absolutely loved it! Speaking to leaders, Wayne Cordeiro gave this message titled “Dead Leader Running.” Below is a short excerpt on How To Fill Your Tank.

Wayne also shares the following:

  • What causes burnout & how to prevent it
  • The unconventional advice he got from his doctor
  • How he almost ruined his marriage
  • A simple exercise that prevents burnout and leads to fulfillment

How to Fill Your Tank – Wayne Cordeiro

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[reminder preface=”Action Step:”] Take five minutes and identify five things that fill your tank and five things that drain you. What can you do this week to replace one of the draining activities with one that fills you?[/reminder]

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