Personal Development

Is Success In Your Budget?

Personal Development

It’s estimated that over 70% of the workforce can’t stand their jobs.

Yet instead of taking action…most people spend their evenings escaping into someone else’s adventure on TV instead of trying to live out their own.

Yet some of the best material ever written can be purchased for less than your daily Starbucks run.

Let’s be honest.

The real cost isn’t the money.

It’s the time.

Why do we waste our days living in average instead of pursuing greatness? Honestly, it’s a mindset issue. Success really comes down to your beliefs. If you don’t believe you have what it takes or deserve to be successful, then frankly it’s just easier to turn on the TV than pursue a goal you don’t believe you’ll achieve.

WHICH IS WHY YOU MUST READ BOOKS LIKE THESE!

Paul said in Romans 12 (in the Bible) that transformation comes by renewing your mind.

“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

There’s a lot of danger in using scriptural truth for selfish gain. But what if your success isn’t selfish. What do you benefit the world by playing small? By undeveloping your gifts and talents in a way that serves others?

Ultimately it’s selfish not to push past your fears and to remain mediocre. 

So start renewing your mind with positive material that will push you past your fears and challenge you to reach your potential.

I’ve read every one of the books listed above. My favorites are Take the Stairs and Wild at Heart (read 5 times). But I highly recommend them all.

[reminder]Which of the books above have you read? What mindsets hold you back?[/reminder]

The Power Of Shining Eyes

I recently watched this TED talk about why everyone should love classical music. There’s a lot of life lessons shared in the video…but what stuck out to me the most was about asking these questions:

  • How am I to live so that those around me have shining eyes?
  • If my wife and children don’t have shining eyes, what does that say about me?

In the world of internet video, 20 minutes is an eternity, but it’s well worth it.

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[reminder]What stuck out to you the most from the video?[/reminder]

-Wesley

Get Off The Nail – How to use Pain as a Motivator for Change

This post is inspired by a story I read by Dan Miller in the book “The Rudder of the Day.” (Side note: I love Dan Miller’s work, especially his 48 Days podcast. Find more at www.48days.com).

Get Off the Nail Dan Miller Quote

[callout]From Dan Miller’s book The Rudder of the Day:

I heard a story from my friend Bob about an old dog lying on the front porch. A neighbor approached the porch and could hear the dog softly moaning. He asked the his friend why the dog was whimpering. And the owner said: “He’s lying on a nail.” Predictably the man said, “Well, why doesn’t he move?” To which the owner replied, “I guess it doesn’t hurt quite that much yet.”[/callout]

Henry Cloud Quote

What Else?

A powerful question we use with life coaching is “what else?”

We’ll ask an open ended question to let the client explore and discover what’s going on inside of them, and then after they’ve answered all they know to answer, we’ll sometimes ask “what else?”

You’d be amazed at how much clarity comes after asking that question.

So let me ask you: What pain have you been dealing with in your life that just hasn’t gotten bad enough to do anything about?

Once you’ve answer that question to yourself, here’s the follow-up:

What else?

I write this because it was in asking myself “what else” that I got some needed revelation on some pain in my life that I’ve tolerated rather than actively doing anything about.

Another great question is this:

What pain will you experience if you don’t make the changes you feel you need to make?

Pain is Powerful

Pain is a powerful motivator. But let it do it’s job. If you ignore it, often the consequences are much greater. You can always pay the price later, but the price goes up the longer you wait. Don’t waste the pain, listen to it.

What is it telling you you need to do?

-Wesley

[reminder]What is one area in your life where you’ve been sitting on the nail and tolerating the pain rather than taking action? Be brave![/reminder]

How to Transform Your Life in 4 Steps and 8 Minutes

This post was inspired by a recent episode of the Ray Edwards’ Show – absolutely one of my favorite podcasts. Ray is a copywriting expert, loves Jesus, and promotes prosperity with purpose. Find him here.

Life Transformation

If I were to ask you “what do you want to change about your life?” you could easily list  four or five specific things.

  • Health
  • Relationships
  • Income
  • Spiritual Growth
  • Bla bla bla

Bla bla bla? Why…bla bla bla?

Because if you’re like most people, this list hasn’t changed in years! 

This is embarrassing to admit…

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Altar Calls, Conferences, and Why Change Is So Hard

I live in a state of constant frustration. Well, frustration is a strong word. Maybe “dissatisfaction” is more appropriate. But some days it sure feels like frustration.

  • Frustrated with the gap between where I am and where I want to be.
  • Frustrated at the level of discipline it actually takes to create new habits.
  • Frustrated at how I spend time on pointless activities instead of keeping first things first.

The Process of Personal Growth

I’m on the worship team at my church, so I get a front row view to the ministry times at the end of each service. Every Sunday people will come forward for prayer for healing, needing direction, needing encouragement, etc.

God knows I’ve been down to the front myself for prayer many times.

These are wonderful times of introspection and great for making decisions that can change your life. But too often, people expect the “life change” to happen in the 10 minutes that they’re down there praying. Then they get frustrated when they’re still the same person on Monday morning.

In the same way, I’ve been to dozens of conferences…listened to greats like John Maxwell, Dan Miller, Michael Hyatt, and Andy Stanley. And man do I love the energy and motivation that comes with a conference.

Until about Wednesday.

Usually the excitement wears off rather quick.

And you’re left with the tedious discipline of making daily decisions to either change your life, or drift back into mediocrity.

You see…altar calls and conferences are the same in this respect. They are excellent for getting clarity on a matter so that you can make a right decision on that matter.

But that’s (usually) not where the change happens!

The change occurs day after day as you put in the time and the discipline needed to change! It is not easy and it is never automatic. You must put in the work.

Or in the words of Solomon, “The sluggard does not plow in season; so at harvest time he looks but finds nothing.” Proverbs 20:4

Never confuse making a decision to change with the actual daily discipline of changing. I’m sure the sluggard made a decision to plow…but when the time came to put in the work he was nowhere to be found.

[reminder]Identify one area of life where you are being a “sluggard” – where you’re not doing what you know you need to do in order to reach your goals. And if you’re brave enough…please share what it is in the comments![/reminder]